It’s sold you on the idea that being less, being small is the only way to be enough. But this is all wrong. It is about being more of the you that is already more than enough!
For years, my hormonal issues of PCOS, a sluggish thyroid and fatigued adrenals create a body that felt uncomfortable, unfamiliar and beyond frustrating to live in. My period would come and go at random, my sleep was truly horrible, my face was full of breakouts, my weight has difficult to control and I felt at the mercy of my messed up hormones. This challenged every insecurity I’d ever had. I felt not pretty enough, not thin enough…not good enough.
While I’ve never been drastically overweight, I’ve never had an easy time losing fat – despite my desperate attempts. I started dieting around age 15 having developed a loathing for my “big butt” (as my mother, perhaps unknowingly gave me a complex about). As I grew up and began to learn about metabolism and medicine, I felt betrayed by my hormones and my genetics – and I in turn betrayed my body at every opportunity when it came to weight loss.
I acted as my worst enemy time and time again, pushing myself to brink of breaking over and over. All in an effort to look the way I thought I was supposed to look. In a vain attempt to force my hormones to get in line. I had lived my life thinking: I’ll be happy when my body looks different.
Alas, at my leanest I was farther from happiness than I was when I started. I was exhausted and injured from over exercise, I was terrified to sit next to a carbohydrate for fear I’d gain weight and had stressed my adrenals and thyroid near their limit. And the worst happened anyway…..
A review of my book on Amazon.com changed my life. This wasn’t an attack on my knowledge and understanding of hormones or biochemistry, it was an attack on my body. An all-out insult about my “round face and fat neck”. It hurt me to the core because after all, I’d said those things (or worse) thousands of times to myself.
This experience cracked me wide open and I knew there had to be another way. I realized I’d been chasing an ideal that I wasn’t even sure was mine. I realized there was no one “out there” that could ever be expected approve of my body in any way that really mattered. I realized I had to hold my body in higher regard instead of placing that responsibility in others as even in the best shape of my life I wasn’t good enough for someone.
It broke my heart – not just reading those cruel words but getting present to how sad it was to live in this place of constantly feeling my body had to be different. I knew there had to be a BETTER way.
I knew that in order to help women whose bodies change so often throughout their life, whose hormones are a moving target from week to week and who like me, have spent far too much time “feeling fat” whether at their thinnest or heaviest, that I had to find a BETTER way. For you, and for myself.
I quit pretending to be someone I’m not, I embraced my body and health at their current state knowing I had power to effect change in them – should I choose to. I accepted that if I choose to pursue changing my body because there is a size of shape that feels more like home to me, I must do it out of love not loathing. That my exercise and nutrition plan need to be nourishing, not punishing. That I must have grace instead of guilt when I strayed from food that works for me. That I have the utmost responsibility for how I feel about my body. I had my power back.
From this place I can be my best friend, no longer my worst enemy. From here I can make choices about the food I eat and the exercise I do as well as how I manage my stress and lifestyle from a place of power and peace – not from a place desperate for approval from everything outside of me. From this place I can work with my hormones instead of against them. And you can to.
We don’t win the battle for our BETTER selves in one knock-down, drag out fight. It’s instead won in a million little moments, a thousand small victories, a hundred times a day where you choose to be your best friend instead of worst enemy.
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